In one week, I’m hopping on a one-way flight to Portugal where I’ll begin a temporary job that I’m beyond excited to dive into. As someone who has learned to enjoy her own company and appreciate the independence that comes with doing things alone, I cannot wait to embrace an entirely new country and sea of people. Funny enough- the two questions I’ve been consistently asked by coworkers and friends are:
“You’re going alone?”
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“Aren’t you nervous/scared?”
Every time I’ve been faced with these questions, I’ve found myself reflecting pensively because, well, yes; I am going alone….
and maybe I should be nervous?
I get it; I know- I’ve also seen the movies where scary things happen to young women in foreign countries, and I’ve watched enough news to know that those things don’t just happen in movies, so I can see how the fears are impossible to ignore.
And of course, we all know that being in the presence of a slew of people you’ve never met can be quite intimidating, especially when there’s any sort of language barrier. But the truth is, I think I’m more scared of staying in one place and not having experiences like this that nurture my independence further. I recognize the importance of staying diligent and looking out for my safety at all times. However, I also trust myself, which I think is the most essential factor in this equation.
If you want my advice on easing the nerves of doing things alone, whether it’s as big as exploring a new country, or as small as taking yourself on a solo dinner date or trying a new gym- remind yourself that we grow most rapidly and dynamically in new, sometimes uncomfortable environments. The act of beginning something- of just showing up that first time for yourself- is always the hardest part. Everything else tends to fall into place as you explore any aspect of change.
If you’re anything like me, you surely want to reflect on your life as the years go on and think “WOW, I made the most of what the world has to offer with the hand I’ve been dealt.” I think that reflection will apply to everyone in drastic variations, and whatever it is that sets your soul on fire will be what fulfills you in the long term.
I cannot fathom waiting years and years to explore as much of the world as I can and hone relationships with people from other backgrounds and mindsets, hence why I’m doing what I’m doing. I also intend to continue pursuing a full-time, long-term PR-focused job beyond this upcoming endeavor while making the most of a temporary opportunity. That’s right- my future PR professional dreams are still alive and well. I am keen on chasing them to new heights while honing my skills and nurturing my creativity as I serve a wellness company’s PR needs in Lagos, Portugal.
If you’re anything like me, you likely want to feel like you’re consistently putting good into the world, rather than just floating through life and receiving a paycheck for your effort. This mantra about putting good into the world is something I try to keep at my forefront at all times, whether I’m entering a work environment or just moving through my day. I admit, I’m counting down the days until I’m present in Portugal, telling the stories of a beautiful place that serves as a sanctuary for positive-minded people and facilitates renowned wellness practices.
I say all of this to express my excitement about pursuing my dreams abroad, despite not having all the answers to what life will look like in this upcoming chapter just yet. Wherever you are/whatever chapter of life you’re in, I hope you feel excited. If you lack positive emotion about how you foresee your future unfolding, try something new. Open your mind and heart to change for the sake of the older version of yourself if nothing else. While you’re at it, be a good human and give back to the people and world around you. I’m challenging myself to prioritize this as well.
Sincerely,
SB
